The Perfect Gift For Your Single Friends Too

About this new book

You've found the most amazing person in the world - but do you have the same effect on them? If not, why not? Are you turning people off without even realising it?

"How to Be The One" provides hundreds of practical ideas to help you become 'The One' for the special person you are with right now, or someone you have yet to meet.

And none of the ideas in this book involve manipulation or under-handed tactics and 'rules'.

Here's what the book covers:

Chapter 1 - First-Class Choice 

Have you had ‘The Moment’ yet? How 21st century ‘supply and demand’ will affect the world’s singles population. And what this will mean to you. How we are all being judged. The ‘Next’ Generation. Internet dating. Auditions for Intimacy. How ready do you want to be?

Chapter 2 - Project YOU 

‘Hot and Spicy’ food for thought. Shopping for The One. Do you have what it takes to Be The One? Or to stay with The One you have in your life right now?

Chapter 3 - From ‘Me’ to ‘We’ 

Friendship. Why game playing doesn’t work and how it hurts you. The role of personal responsibility. From Me Me Me to being part of an Us.

Chapter 4 - Your Emotional Core 

Introducing your Emotional Core. Why it’s so important and how a well-developed Emotional Core will help you. How ‘imploding’ or ‘exploding’ always weakens you. 

Chapter 5 - Full Esteem Ahead 

Your Reservoir of Suffering and ‘Inner Critic’. Taking back control. Practical ways to boost your self-esteem. Daily Stop and Start Reminders to improve self-esteem.

Chapter 6 - Attitude 

How it’s so easy to spot a bad attitude, except when it’s our own. Starring in your own talk show. Toxic and tonic types. Welcome to Wally World. My family ‘shame’. Daily Stop and Start Reminders to improve attitude.

Chapter 7 - Unhappiness Uncovered 

Part 1 of the Happiness Emotional Core component. Why it’s so important to understand unhappiness (and unhappy people). What unhappy people do. Assessing your current happiness level. Meet the ‘Hyper-Happys’. Why it’s impossible to be unhappy and loving at the same time. Daily Stop and Start Reminders to reduce unhappiness.

Chapter 8 - Happiness 

Part 2 of the Happiness Emotional Core component. Your ‘Happiness Heartbeat’. Practical, simple and easy-to-adopt strategies to develop permanent happiness habits. Daily Stop and Start Reminders to improve happiness.

Chapter 9 - Kindness & Compassion 

Why kindness is so uncool. What is kindness exactly? Are kind people ‘weak’ or ‘strong’? How to be kinder to self and others. The potential penalties and risks of being ‘too’ kind. Daily Stop and Start Reminders to improve your kindness & compassion.

Chapter 10 - Intimacy 

Sex, lust and passion.True and fake intimacy. Barriers to intimacy. Strategies to manage arguing, blaming and intimate conflict. Understanding and accepting different personality types. Improving compatibility. Daily Stop and Start Reminders to improve true intimacy.

Chapter 11 - TLC - Trust, Love & Commitment 

The two sides of trust. The myths of love. Romantic, obsessive and parasitic love. True love. ‘Commitment Lite’ v. the real thing. Daily Stop and Start Reminders to improve trust, love and commitment.

Chapter 12 - And Finally... 

Appendix 1 

Personal Contract and Promise

Appendix 2 

How to Turn Off a Woman

Appendix 3 

How to Turn Off a Man

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